Sunday, December 1, 2013

"The Passing of Two Great Pauls"

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Yesterday was a tough day as two great men passed away..............................


My deepest condolences go out to the family, friends, TBN business, and the body of Christ for the passing of Paul F. Crouch who was a pioneer of the gospel and who helped to spread the Word of God around the world.  We will always remember the life of Paul Franklin Crouch born 3/30/13 and passed on 11/30/2013.

 
My deepest condolences go out to the family, friends, and fans of Paul Walker of "The Fast & Furious Movie Franchise." Paul was 40 years old, but lived an impact-ful life.

~Death reminds us all to love one another because tomorrow is not promised.

Thursday, July 4, 2013

This Week I Grieved!

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It's been a long while since I have posted about my personal losses.  Yay!  It has been nice to have a break from personal loss.

In the interim, I have been working diligently to finish my doctorate degree.  While working full-time, organizing an educational non-profit for needy Los Angeles area children, and working on my other entrepreneurial ventures I forgot to monitor the condition of my soul.

For the past month, I have found myself to be depressed, short-tempered, easily angered, and totally annoyed.  These characteristics are definitely uncharacteristic for me.  About three weeks ago, I had a crying spell and could not figure out why.  Believe me, I am not a Cryer.  I am a Thinker.....a Reasoner, and my most favorite charactistic...I am a Ponderer.  Two weeks ago, I started to pull back the layers of my soul in order to discover what was eating me up on the inside.  I talked to my personal Counselor who advised me to take time to do a few things that I love and stop worrying about what is bothering me.

Four days ago, I began to take my Counselor's advice.  I started writing again, which is why you are reading this blog, I started cooking, I started walking around discovering things in nature, and doing crossword puzzles.  Two days ago, I was doing nothing special.  I just had a big laugh while riding in a car with my Sister.  I started talking to her very casually about what I had been going through in my soul.  I explained to my sister that I have always planned things.  I told her how I pride myself of setting goals and keeping them.  I explained to her that I continue to live an orderly life that I enjoy and a life that makes sense........to me.  Next I said, "I think I am upset on the inside because  I was supposed to be ....... by now."  Just then, a light shone into my soul.  I FIGURED IT OUT!

I have never grieved the loss of the life that I thought that I should have had by now.  Sounds weird, right? At first I had to think about it for a day or so.  I realized that I have finally discovered the thing that was vexing my soul.  I have grieved and accepted the life that I have now.  I have asked my Creator to forgive me for being ungrateful for the life that I have by only focusing on the life that I thought I should have had by now. 

So, in the tradition of my very first blog in this series, I realized that I was experiencing BAADD (the 5 stages of grief), but I was unaware of it because I had not experienced the death of a person lately.  In case you have not read my earlier posts, I suggest that you do, so that you can understand what the acronym that I made up for the 5 stages of grief really means.

Wednesday, May 8, 2013

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On May 7, 2013 the “Young and Restless” star Jeanne Cooper passed away.  She has been a prominent character on the show for decades. My Mom and sisters enjoyed watching her play the role of a wealthy widow by the name of Mrs. Chancellor.

My condolences to the family, friends, and fans of Ms. Cooper, she will be greatly missed, but her dignity, grace, and talent will never be forgotten.
                    
 Jeanne Cooper  ~1928-2013

Sunday, December 16, 2012

Sandy Hook Elementary School in Newtown, Connecticut

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This tragedy has left me reeling.  When our society has come to a point where young people think that it is alright to murder children, we have reached a level of society depravity that must be addressed.  I need to time to grasp what has happened, but my prayers and condolences go out to the survivors of the shootings that occurred on December 14, 2012. God give Newtown, CT and our nation peace to walk through this disaster. 

Tuesday, September 11, 2012

Lost, But Not Forgotten

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The past 4 weeks have been life-changing and impact-ful because of the loss of female comedic legend Phyllis Dillard on August 20, 2012.  Then on September 3, 2012 beloved actor Michael Clarke Duncan passed away. 

As a child my parents and I would erupt in stomach clenching laughter whenever Ms. Dillard came on the television.  Ms. Dillard paved the way for other comedic favorites like Lucille Ball and other female stand-up comics.

Michael Clarke Duncan wowed us all with his acting ability.  I will never forget his his role in "The Green Mile."  He really captured our hearts with that role.

My prayers go out to the family, friends, and fans of these amazing Hollywood Stars. Both your lights will never be diminished.


Wednesday, August 22, 2012

Artie Williams III: The Man of Quiet Power & Strength

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Photo: We are shocked, saddened and grieving...but we grieve in hope...knowing he is with Jesus and we will see Artie again.

My sister and I met Artie at Valencia Christian Center in 2009.  He served in the church and made the entire congregation feel safe by standing at the entrance to the sanctuary and by making sure that the services were held without disruption or interruption by intruders.

My sister and I were singers on the "Praise and Worship Team" and one day Artie approached my sister and asked her opinion about music. He told her that he wanted to have more gospel music to listen to and he wanted her recommendation.  For the next year, Artie and my sister became fast friends.  Yes, I really do mean friends, although many people do not believe that men and women can just be friends, I can attest to the fact that it is possible.

Anyway, by the summer of 2010, my older sister and Artie spoke often.  He would come by our house for dinner and we would discuss his love of all things SCUBA DIVING.  Lol!  He was so excited about his love for the sport, he made me want to dive. He told me that he would take my sister and I scuba diving, but  then I confessed that I was not ready for diving. He asked me why and I said, "Um, I can't swim."  Most people would have laughed, but Artie politely said, "Well, you learn how to swim, then I will take the both of you scuba diving."  I do not know why I was so happy to hear his encouragement, but I was. In just a few moment Artie had given me a short term goal of learning how to swim and a long term goal of going scuba diving.  Wow!

The summer of 2010 was a trying time for my older sister as she was diagnosed with major abdominal problems.  Both she and I were worried about her health and her life.  During the summer, my sister endured blood transfusions and treatments to increase her iron levels.  She needed surgery, but the doctors refused to book a date for her until her iron levels improved. I watched my sister's Spirit weaken and there was not much that I could say or do to make her feel better, but her daily call from Artie during this time always did the trick.  By the time my sister's surgery was scheduled for the second week of August 2010, her doctors were prepared for the worst, but my sister, myself, and Artie were believing God for a miracle for my sister's health.

When surgery day arrived, my sister received a call from Artie. I am sure he was worried about her, but he told her that she would be fine.  I stayed with my sister until she had to go into surgery preparation. I was strong in her presence, but inside I was afraid.  The surgery was supposed to take about 2 or 3 hours, but she was in surgery for about 5 to 6 hours.  As I became familiar with Cedar Sinai Hospital by visiting the cafeteria, various waiting areas, and several surrounding locations on the campus I was met with constant calls from Artie.  About an hour into the surgery Artie called me and said, "Are you ok?  Was T in good spirits when she went into surgery?  Did they tell you how long the surgery will last?"  I answered all of his questions.  He told me that he had a busy work schedule but that he would check in periodically.  I guess I did know the meaning of periodically because he called about very couple of hours.  Each time that I felt my phone vibrate I thought, "Oh good this must be my brother or my other sister calling to check on my sister."  I was so wrong. It was Artie!  Each time he was more and more concerned about why my sister's surgery was taking so long. I told him that I did not know, but one of her surgeons told me that his portion of the surgery went well but the gastrointestinal doctor had a lot of work to do.

After the surgery, my sister recovered rather quickly. Within 4 days she was released from the hospital, but I was faced with yet another obstacle, getting my sister who just had major abdominal surgery up three flights of stairs to get home to our apartment.  As soon as I realized that she was coming home sooner that I expected I began to call all of the men that my sister knew because I could not physically carry her up those three flights of stairs if the need arose.  I called men who my sister babysat for and they said, "No."  I called men that my sister had cooked for often and they said, "No."  I even asked men that she was acquainted with and they said, "Maybe", which to me, still meant, "No."  Finally, with little hope of getting help, I called Artie.  I said, "Artie, I have a problem.  I know that you work and I am so sorry to bother you but T is coming home tomorrow and I have no one to help me get her up the three flights of stairs leading to our apartment."  Without hesitation he asked what time she would be released.  He said, "I'll be there, just call me when you are leaving the hospital."  I followed Artie's instructions and when I arrived at home he was waiting in the parking lot in over 100 degree weather. I could not believe it.  He really came to help.

Artie was one of the best!  He was compassionate, gentle, honorable, possessed a lot of integrity , and kind.  He was a quiet power and strength.  I remember one Sunday at church I complimented him on his suit and tie and he just smiled as if it was hard for him to receive the compliment.   He was a great man!  My sister and Artie were close friends, so I am writing this on her behalf.  Just as Artie Williams III was a Quiet Strength, I was a Quiet Observer of the kind of man that he was.

We are sorry to have lost you on August 18, 2012.  Artie, you are and forever will be greatly missed! 

Saturday, July 21, 2012

Mr. Andy Griffith Passes at 86 Years Old

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 I would like to offer my sincere condolences to the Griffith family.  Mr. Andy Griffith was born June 1, 1926 and passed away on July 3, 2012.  He was 86 years old.  He was a television icon.  He brought honor to the silver screen as he chose roles that were positive.  He showed our world what it meant to be a humble, giving, and kind man.  He showed us that being a Hollywood star also means being responsible for the type of life that you live.  He was from the South and he exuded dignity when it came to matters of race and humanity.  Mr. Griffith, you will be missed, but NEVER forgotten!

Just a thought

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Life seems to be moving faster and faster everyday.  I am finding that this blog continues to be cathartic for me even after my own personal loss in 2009.  Who knew that three years later, I would still feel at peace every time I place my feelings and thoughts about death on this blog? I am amazed and glad that I am able to express my thoughts about death and its impact as well as celebrate the lives of others who have impacted our society, but have now passed on.

Thursday, May 17, 2012

Loss Impacts our Society

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Life is moving forward and unfortunately death is a part of life. 

On April 18, 2012 we lost famed music and television host Dick Clark. He lived to be 82 years old. His impact on American music will never be forgotten.
 Today, May17, 2012 we lost the "Queen of Disco" Donna Summer.  She was 63 years old.
 
My condolences go out to all of the family, friends, and fans of each of these timeless legends.  We will never find anyone to fill the space that you two filled in American culture but we will keep you both alive by keeping your memories alive.